Fear or Fun? You choose.
“No one looks stupid when they’re having fun.” -Amy Poehler
I will admit this (even though I am not proud of it): For the last 6 months, I have thought about starting this dance class but I wouldn’t say it aloud. I kept this idea to myself. I would watch dance videos on Instagram. I would watch YouTube clips of my all-time favorite dance videos and performances (most of which are Britney Spears and Janet Jackson - anyone feel me?!). I would google “dance cardio classes” and check out websites of studios in New York, Los Angeles, and Chicago. But I wouldn’t dare say to anyone, “I think I’m going to start a dance class.” Why not? The ugly truth: I was afraid of what people would think.
My head became clouded with self-doubt. And what took over even more than self-doubt was a fictional narrative of judgmental statements that others would be thinking if I revealed my little secret. I created an entire STORY around these fear-based thoughts and convinced myself that now wasn’t the right time: I’m too busy. I work. I have a family. I need more free time rather than more obligations. One day I will do this, but now isn’t the right time.
I am constantly amazed at the power of our own minds. Fear of judgment took over and I was able to rationalize that fear. I convinced my logical self that my fictional narrative was completely true and valid. And before I knew it, my goals got put on the back burner (for good reason of course ;-).
It took two glasses of wine and a girls’ night out for me to finally reveal my dirty little secret that I had been hiding. And the response was AMAZING. No one was judgmental. My friends were supportive, encouraging, and helpful. All of my fear-based thoughts came from this insecure place of “what will people think?” and I almost let that fear get in the way of my FUN.
And that’s what I want this dance class to be: FUN. A judgement-free, sweat-your-ass-off, shake-what-your-mama-gave-you, dance-like-no-one-is-watching type of environment that makes us feel stress-free, sexy, supported, and empowered. THAT is the goal. Don’t worry about what you think you look like or what you think others will think of you if you’re not a “world class” dancer. Just STOP the narrative and come f*cking dance with me. Deep down you know it’s true: the best type of party is ALWAYS a dance party, right?!